Nancy Reagan stepped into eternity today at the age of 94. While I can’t remember all that Nancy did or represented, I do remember that she was classy and she loved her husband, our country’s 40th president, Ronald Reagan. During one of her interviews with Barbara Walters she was asked what it took to keep romance in marriage. She said something that I thought was so meaningful in that interview that I wished everyone would realize: marriage isn’t 50/50 when it comes to loving each other. There will be times that you will have to give up to 90% when you partner just can’t give any more than 10%. It’s not because they don’t want to, but they can’t. Internal or external circumstances are robbing them of their ability to give. At other times your mate will give the 90% and you will give the 10%.
Marriage isn’t about equal give-and-take, it’s about giving all of yourself all the time by all the means that you have.
Thank you, President and Mrs. Reagan, for modeling a new kind of marriage math.